By its very design, this system implies that any failure or difficulty experienced is due to the individual’s lack of success and not larger societal issues.

As a result, it benefits from us not addressing the systemic roots of our trauma and instead perpetuates traumatic experiences by placing too much emphasis on personal responsibility.

Often time dismissing and diminishing genuine symptoms such as:

• An inability to slow down or feel present with life perpetuating workaholism and achievement addiction
• Unable to experience deep intimacy, fearing vulnerability or the need always to be “performing” to uphold an image of perfection
• Self-doubt, distrust, and a hyper-critical self-image that keeps us “stuck” or never feeling “enough.”
• Disconnection from ourselves or others, lacking vitality, or unable to access a sense of belonging
• Overriding or crossing our boundaries, stuck in patterns of appeasement, or feeling unable to speak up for ourselves
• Constantly assimilating in an attempt to “fit” into spaces while simultaneously never feeling a true sense of belonging or safety
• Overwhelmed by life, our emotions, or our sensitivities experienced either complete numbness or catharsis to no avail.
• A perpetual feeling of being behind, never having enough time, or always living in a state of urgency